Point of view: Why Peter Beinart is driving the 'pro-Israel' establishment crazy

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Israeli Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu 'regularly invokes Nazi Germany to describe Iran'by MJ Rosenberg

Almost all the criticism of (and controversy about) Peter Beinart's The Crisis of Zionism comes down to two major complaints:

The first is that he is a "liberal Zionist" which, by some definitions, means he is just as indifferent to Palestinian rights as a right-wing Zionist. For example, he believes in the idea and reality of a Jewish state and is primarily motivated by his sense of urgency about preserving it. He also does not support granting the right to return to Israel to all the Palestinian refugees (dating back to 1947) and their millions of descendants, viewing full return as a means to ending Israel's existence.

And, worst of all to some on the left, Beinart favours the so-called "two-state solution" which, although repeatedly thwarted primarily by settler-supporting Israeli governments, Beinart sees as the only means to achieve a solution fair to both peoples.

The second source of disapproval (fury, actually) toward Beinart's book emanates from the "pro-Israel" right - and the intensity of their condemnation dwarfs the criticism of those who attack from the left.

After all, the anti-Zionists primarily view Beinart as misguided and naïve, still a prisoner of the Zionist ideology on which he was raised. But the "pro-Israel" right (and that includes virtually the entire "pro-Israel" organisational establishment) views Beinart as evil, as a traitor and, as ridiculous as this sounds, an enemy of the Jewish people. No matter that his goal is a secure Israel living side by side a secure Palestine and that his love for Israel suffuses his entire book, or that he is an observant Jew; for the "pro-Israel" right, Beinart is the enemy.

Understanding the feelings of the US right about Beinart may be more the job of a psychologist than a pundit, because the sentiment is so irrational that it cannot be addressed by merely citing facts. It is a mark of how crazy the debate over Israel has become in this country that the vitriol exceeds anything that goes on in Israel, which itself has more than its fair share of right-wingers.

For instance, take a look at this video from the top-rated Israeli show "Big Brother", a television reality show in which a group of young people move into an apartment and live their lives on camera. These shows are popular worldwide, but the brilliant exposition of the evils of the occupation that one character made on the Israeli show last week is unimaginable here (US reality shows avoid politics like the plague. But this is Israel).

There is one other striking thing about this video (besides the fact not even a Jewish community centre would dare show it in the US). It is that the young man making the case against the occupation is the kind of person Zionism was supposed to produce: a proud Israeli afraid of nothing. These are the kind of Israelis we don't see much of in the United States anymore (in contrast with the period before Israel became obsessed with maintaining the occupation and confronting Iran). You know, the Paul Newman ("Exodus") kind of Israelis who - although a stereotype - are rooted in reality. The reason we don't see them is because an Israeli government that is always making the case for the status quo based on fear would be ill-served by proud, unafraid Israelis speaking to Americans.

For instance, take Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu, whose mind seems to be in 1938 Europe. In 2006, speaking about Iran, Netanyahu told an audience in Los Angeles: "It's 1938 and Iran is Germany". He said that the Iranian president who "denies the Holocaust" is "preparing another Holocaust for the Jewish state".

Note that Netanyahu's warning of the imminent danger of an Iranian nuclear weapon was delivered six years ago and that this was far from the first warning from Netanyahu that Iran was on the brink of achieving a nuclear bomb. It was also not the first time he said that the present day was reminiscent of 1938, although he has sometimes invoked 1942 or 1944.

The difference between Netanyahu and the young Israeli in the video (and most Israelis, I believe) is that, for them, the situation today is nothing like the situation in the 1940s. If it is, then who needs Israel, which justifies its very existence as the ultimate guarantee that "Never Again" is more than a slogan? It is a reality backed up by one of the most effective militaries in the world and 200 nuclear weapons. Israel is not the Warsaw Ghetto, a comparison that insults both the memory of the Holocaust and Israel itself.

And Netanyahu is far from the only person in a leadership position to make that comparison. Beinart reminds us that Jews

...tell ourselves that we are still history's victims whose primary responsibility is merely to survive. Consider the language of prominent Jewish leaders. In 2009, the national director of the Anti-Defamation League, Abraham Foxman, declared that 'anti-Semitism (is)... reaching a peak this year that we haven't seen since the tragic days of World War II'. In 2010, House Majority Leader Eric Cantor devoted his entire speech at the American Israel Public Affairs Committee (AIPAC) policy conference to an extended analogy with the Nazi era. That December, Malcolm Hoenlein, the powerful executive vice-chairman of the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organisations, gave a speech entitled, 'Is It 1939?'

Beinart then offers this chilling image that sums up the Holocaust fixation and how it affects attitudes toward Israel today:

A few years ago, a journalist reported that Malcolm Hoenlein ... had a photo in his conference room of Israeli F15s flying over Auschwitz. It is a photo of a fantasy. Israeli jets never bombed Auschwitz and never will. What they have bombed, in recent years, is the Gaza Strip, a fenced in, hideously overcrowded, desperately poor slum from which terrorist groups sometimes shell Israel. Hoenlein, in other words, has decorated his conference room not with an image of the reality that he helps perpetuate, but with an image of the fantasy he superimposes on that reality.

It is that fantasy that is producing such vitriol against Beinart in the "pro-Israel" organisations and among their cutouts. Beinart, born in 1971 in Massachusetts and brought up on stories about Israeli pioneers and heroes, absolutely refuses to accept the idea that Israel is some helpless little ghetto on the verge of extinction. He does not see the existence of Israel as an extension of the Holocaust but as the guarantee that there will never be another one. His Israel is one of daylight while the "pro-Israel" establishment sees only night and fog.

Add to that, his belief that the secure Israel of his dreams can only exist if Palestinians are secure, and it becomes clear why he produces such rage. To put it simply, the "pro-Israel" establishment is so invested in the dark past that it will not tolerate the image of a bright future - especially if that future can only be achieved by compromising with a people they have decided are German Nazis. It is pathological. Fortunately, I think it is Beinart who represents the future.

MJ Rosenberg is a Senior Foreign Policy Fellow at Media Matters Action Network.

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A Day in the Life of a Minimalist | zen habits

A Day in the Life of a Minimalist

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Joshua Millburn of The Minimalists.

I do not have a daily routine. I no longer need one.

I do, however, have habits on which I focus every day.

Don’t get me wrong, I used to have a daily routine — before I quit my six-figure job to pursue my passions and live a more meaningful life. And I hated that routine. Every day felt like Groundhog Day: awake to a blaring alarm, shower, shave, put on a suit and tie, spend an hour or more in mind-numbing traffic, succumb to the daily trappings of emails and phone calls and instant messages and meetings, drive home through even more mind-numbing traffic, eat something from a box in the freezer, search for escape within the glowing box in the living room, brush my teeth, set the alarm clock, sleep for five or six hours, start all over again in the morning.

That was life most days. The same thing over and over and over. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

And then last year I decided it wasn’t for me anymore. I realized working 60 to 80 hours a week to make the money to buy more superfluous stuff didn’t fill the void I felt inside. It only brought more debt and anxiety and fear and loneliness and guilt and stress and paranoia and depression.

So I canceled my routine. Or, rather, I traded in my routine for better habits.

It didn’t happen overnight, but over a few years I pared down my possessions, got into the best shape of my life, paid off my debt, jettisoned my TV, eliminated Internet at home, left corporate America, started pursuing my passions, stopped buying junk, and started living a more meaningful life — a life focused on growth and contribution.

During that time of personal growth I developed new habits I love, habits I look forward to each day, habits that make me happy: exercise, writing, reading, establishing new connections with people, and building upon existing relationships.

I am also developing the habit of contribution. I believe giving is living — we don’t feel truly alive unless we contribute to other people in meaningful ways. Donating time to Habitat for Humanity, local soup kitchens, and various other community organizations has been a starting point on my journey towards developing this habit. I also enjoy contributing to the readers at our website and inspiring them to change their lives, much like Leo and Zen Habits inspired me to change mine.

Many readers ask me what my typical day looks like now that I’m no longer forced into an unnecessary routine. My answer is always the same: every day is a blank page, although there are habits I act upon daily.

Presenting last Thursday as an example, this is how I enjoyed the day:

I woke at 4:50am without an alarm, excited and refreshed. These days my habit is to wake when my body tells me it’s rested. But there is no routine.

I ate a banana, drank a cup of coffee, then wrote from 5am to 11am. As I primarily write literary fiction, I prefer writing in the morning when it’s quiet and I’m closest to the dream world. My writing room contains only a desk, a chair, a laptop, and my notes — the only things I need. Nothing else. There’s no phone, no Internet, no clock — no distractions. Just me and my habit, which I enjoy immensely. Each day I write until I don’t feel like writing anymore. But there is no routine.

After a writing-fueled morning (interrupted only by push-ups every hour or so), I walked to the neighborhood park and alternated between pull-ups and push-ups under the midday sun. Exercise is important for me, and I enjoy it daily. But there is no routine.

I showered, dressed (jeans and a T-shirt), and walked to a local burrito joint to eat a modest, vegetarian lunch. I eat when my body tells me I’m hungry, irrespective of the time (I don’t own a watch). Some days I eat lunch at noon; other days I might eat at 10am or 3pm. But there is no routine.

After my meal, I walked to my favorite coffee shop, ordered an herbal tea, used their Internet connection to check my email and publish some writing online, then visited with some of the regulars (as well as some strangers). There were 37 emails in my inbox, which was okay as I only check email two or three times per week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But there is no routine.

After two or three hours on the Internet, I walked to a park, sat on a bench, and read a novel while the sun set fire to the sky. Some days this habit invites me to devour chapter after chapter, hour after hour; other days I read for only half an hour. But there is no routine.

After a few chapters, I hit the gym with my best friend (and online writing pal), Ryan Nicodemus, and enjoyed some cardio and weight training. We habitually visit the gym four or five days per week. We drop by at different times each day. But there is no routine.

Throughout the day I made sure I was hydrated. Besides coffee and herbal tea, I drank only water. No alcohol. No sugary drinks. No soda (or ‘pop,’ for those of us in the Midwest). I attempt to drink my body weight in ounces of water each day, which isn’t always easy — so sometimes I drink only half that. But that’s okay: there is no routine.

I own a car, but I didn’t drive it on Thursday. I didn’t need to. It was a nice day, so I walked instead (even though Dayton, Ohio, isn’t exactly the most walkable city in the world). Some days I need to drive to where I want to go; other days I can walk. But there is no routine.

Later that evening I enjoyed dinner and a conversation with a friend, and afterwards we walked to a local concert. Other days I might watch a movie at the indie theater or visit a friend’s house or spend time in an art gallery or volunteer a few hours of my time, all habits I enjoy. But there is no routine.

After the concert, I walked a few miles by myself, gathering my thoughts. It had been a beautiful day, followed by a beautiful night — a denim sky illuminated by a waning crescent moon, a million diamonds afire, and the prospect of a new day at midnight.

The good news is my life is no different than yours, minus the routine. Sure, the details are different, the circumstances are different, but we all have the same 24 hours in a day. We all have one life to live, and that life is passing by one day at a time. The only real difference lies within the decisions we make and the actions we take.

Joshua Millburn writes essays with Ryan Nicodemus about minimalism and living a meaningful life with less stuff at The Minimalists. Follow him on Twitter or subscribe to his website.

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Intimacy Problems for Adults with ADHD

Solutions for Intimacy Problems for Adults with ADHD

Curated by Rene Volpi

By Richard B. Austin, Jr., Ph.D.

 

Chapter 1
 How it impacts relationships and what to do about It. 

I will offer a few tools to turn the tide on ADHD’s power to disrupt, disturb, and often destroy valuable relationships. In the book Driven to Distraction, Edward Hallowell, M.D., and John Ratey, M.D., who are both experts on ADHD and who wrestle with the symptoms themselves, make the point that ADHD adults often do not know ordinary social rules that most people take for granted about relationships. “Social ‘reading’ can be as difficult for these people as the reading of words” (p. 281), but it has a major impact on intimacy.

This article will cover key communication skills that must be working well to avoid a breakdown in successful intimacy. The following three communication problems will be addressed: (1) not listening, (2) interrupting, and (3) not keeping promises. Probably the single most important issue to address is active, careful listening with a feedback loop to make sure the listener "gets" the speaker's message.

If you have ADHD, you can improve your listening skills by asking yourself some questions. Am I really paying attention to what the person is saying, or is my mind “drifting off” to something else or being distracted by things in the environment irrelevant to the conversation? The real test is whether you can repeat the conversation back in your mind or to the person speaking. It helps to acknowledge out loud what a person says, especially when you are beginning to train yourself to be a 100% listener rather than a 40%-50% listener. After time, acknowledgement becomes automatic even if you don’t acknowledge out loud.

There is a gender difference here which I talk about in my booklet, “How to Talk to a Woman in Four Simple Steps” (c 1994). Women, particularly in close and family relationships, feel devalued if not listened to. If you don’t really listen, you will not remember what is said which can lead to other relationship problems.

As an antidote to one’s mind drifting off during a conversation, not unusual with adult ADD, put in place the rule that nothing is as important as the person I’m talking to and what that person has to say. If it’s a spouse or child, this is especially true. This is training for success where it counts the most--your intimate relationships. You have to have “mental space” for information to be received and perceived at a cognitive level. How can you let someone’s information in through one of your attention pathways if these pathways are crowded with what you have to say or with many thoughts unrelated to the conversation subject matter?

Interrupting is another common barrier to effective communication with ADHD adults, but one that can be easily corrected. When a person is interrupted in the middle of a sentence, thought, or dialogue, it not only breaks the flow of conversation, but also gives the message that what you have to say is more important than what the other person has to say. This is probably not true for you, but that doesn’t change the message. Practicing self-awareness of everything you say is a good starting point. Make sure you are listening to yourself and thinking before you speak. Stay connected to the conversation flow. Allow pauses, even silent moments, to give the other person the opportunity to fully respond, or to not respond, before you speak.

A good training technique here is “pacing”. Pacing is where you pause after saying a few things and wait for a response before continuing to talk. This helps break down the ADHD tendency to monologue, not dialogue, in conversation, which creates distance in relationships. When you have give-and-take in a conversation with two people listening and taking turns to talk, you stay connected, intimate, and meet the true emotional needs of the other person. Problems with not listening and interrupting impact intimacy satisfaction in a profound way. Although these are typical ADHD adult problems, they can be corrected with training. Medicines help that training along, but medicines do not teach you what you need to know about your ADHD related communication problems and how to solve them.

The third point in this series is not keeping your promises. Often a well-meaning adult with ADD promises to do something but forgets about it. Then an intimate feels betrayed or “let down” by the thing they expected to happen, like picking something up from the grocery store or calling a friend. If you are like me, you need to write down what you promise to do and place it in a clearly visible place in the house where you can check it out daily. Don’t trust your memory to remember your promises. When you haven’t delivered as promised, tell the person you were wrong, that you are sorry for that oversight, and that you’ll make up for it. Always give yourself a target date to deliver on a promise. This way you will not procrastinate and will be able to meet expectations. Also, your self-esteem will be enhanced.

Listening, having true dialogue and not interrupting, and keeping your promises will jump-start your intimate relationships to new levels of satisfaction—you can start seeing results right away!

Chapter 2
The effect of ADHD on relationships

This is the second in a series of articles on the effect of adult ADHD on relationships. Understanding the different styles of communication between men and women, and acting on that understanding, is essential for relationship harmony. The many barriers to overcome in communication for a person with ADD, such as overtalking, interrupting, not listening, or getting off track, are magnified with cross gender conversation issues.

If you watch same-sex communication you’ll note some obvious differences. Men often talk parallel to one another, and may only occasionally have face-to-face contact. They seem to assume that the speaker was heard by the other man, while women generally acknowledge what is being said by words, or by a nod of the head. A woman may feel devalued if not acknowledged or listened to , but a man doesn’t place the same importance on being heard. Let’s examine some typical gender differences in response to often used phrases.

1. “Let’s talk.”

Women: “Great, we’re finally taking time to talk. Now we can solve some problems.”

Men: “Oh, no! What now? What have I done. I’d better find a way to avoid this encounter.”

Men tend to avoid conflict in personal and business relationships, as studies in business show that men would prefer to avoid confrontations and unpleasant encounters. Men do not like to face an unknown situation with little control of the outcome, while women frame such a situation as one that might improve if it is faced up to and talked about. There also may be a psychological explanation for the difference as research indicates that men have more extreme, and unpleasant, physiological reactions to conflict compared to women.

The bottom line is for women to be more empathetic about the male experience of “Let’s talk” being a threat, while men need to reframe the phrase to mean a win/win situation as talking about problems invariably helps. If a man refuses to talk, set up a future time to talk by agreement.

2. “Let me help you.”

Women: Women respond to this offer much like they respond to psychotherapy, in a positive way; they expect to receive benefit and to get something of value for themselves.

Men: “This implies I’m needy, somewhat weak, and may mean I’m lacking in competence.”

Women also may not elevate the advice of a therapist above that of their best friend or mother, and check it out carefully before accepting it. Men, on the other hand process an offer for help as suggesting that they need it (help), and further that it may imply inadequacy, which is a very sensitive male issue.

If that is not negative enough, the “let me help . .” phrase may activate the vertical hierarchy in men, which means that being helped puts them in a subordinate position to the helper. Scientific studies by linguists spell out this dynamic. Ever wonder why men avoid asking for directions, even when they are lost? That’s why. The person with knowledge they do not have puts them in a superior position from the male framework.

As men and women usually respond differently to an offer of help, a preliminary statement might be useful like, “You might not need this advice but in case you find something of use let me share this information with you.” An attitude of acceptance of the gender related differences to the word “help” is perhaps the most important point to keep in mind.

3.“You’re Wrong.”

Women: “That’s their opinion. I’ll listen with some skepticism to see if they have a valid point.”

Men: “It sounds like a putdown to me, or even a challenge. I'll defend my position. I'll prove I'm

not wrong.”

Women are not necessarily threatened or have their egos on the line if someone tells them “You're wrong.” They may take it with a grain of salt, throw it out, or carefully examine the reasoning behind the statement. Men, on the other hand, feel somewhat offended, or somehow diminished, by that phrase and often become defensive, which shuts down communication. As women deliver a “you're wrong” message in more subtle ways and couch it with a positive comment both before and after the phrase, it will be better received. As described in my booklet about 10 steps to get a man to talk, men need a safe place psychologically to hear that they are wrong.

However, men need to consider the reward they'll receive when they not only say “Sorry” but “I'm wrong” to the primary woman in their life. It reaps rich dividends.

4. “You're Right.”

Women: “He's probably just going along, and doesn't really buy into it. Or he's just admitting how it really is.”

Men: “Music to my ears. Play that melody some more. What good judgment; she finally sees the light.”

Sound familiar? Of course a general theme has exceptions, but 40 years of practice and observation tell me it's so. I'm so sure I'm right here that I will not be offended if you think I'm wrong.

Make support groups and business groups, spend time validating and supporting each other with the veiled message “You're right”. The underlying male dynamic, based on the male code, is that a man must continually prove himself to others; thus the need to be affirmed. This male code was summed up by writer/therapist Virginia Satir forty years ago in three edicts: “Don't cry, don't feel, and don't talk about it”, which is taught to males from preschool through teenage years, reinforced by fathers, peers, and coaches. After a while, as feelings are externalized, they tend to be blocked from conscious awareness. This breeds more impulsivity in the male and acting out of feelings, which ordinarily is an issue with ADD. Holly Sweet, Ph.D., in the fall 2000 Journal of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity (APA Division 50) stresses “mindfulness training” associated with the Eastern wisdom tradition, that is a way to “experience freedom to be aware and accept raw emotions, memories, and unpleasant events.” It is a way to become aware of the self more fully in the present moment. This training is helpful for a person with ADD, and goes beyond the relaxation/concentration training. Mindfulness training allows a person to receive negative feedback with empathy and to be more objective, countering distractibility.

In summary, four often used phrases show gender differences in processing information from the initial input in meaning to typical responses as a function of gender. Today, ADD adults, and others for that matter, will benefit to understand gender differences in communication and decide to reprogram conventional response patterns to better relationships, lower stress and support primary intimacy.

The phrases “Let's talk”, “Let me help you”, “You're wrong” and “You're right” may be viewed by women in terms of their impact on men, or as coded, knee jerk male reactions. Men may choose to view "Let's talk" as an opportunity to improve a relationship, "Let me help you" as adding to their competency, "You're wrong" as a valued point of view irrelevant to personal worth and adequacy, and "You're right" as not proving anything, but pleasant to hear from an intimate.

Richard B. Austin, Jr., Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in private practice, treats adults with ADD and has tapes available on ADD issues from professional presentations. His office number is (713)780-7700, or e-mail him at Drrichardaustin@aol.com.

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